While my skin’s a real boundary that most people respect, what causes way too much pain and frustrates me to no end is how often strangers, acquaintances and worse, family, don’t think twice before taking a pin, finger or razor to the structure that best defines my emotional realm, a bubble.
As a result of too many painful lessons, I’ve learned how to protect my feelings. While it may seem paradoxical, it’s being open and willing to be vulnerable. The logic is that there are two things that I know of that can go through a bubble without breaking it; 1) light and 2) another bubble. Since living this way I’ve learned that the most dangerous things I can do with my feelings are to hide them inside my heart or worse, my head. Why? Because getting at them whenever necessary is critical and the truth is my heart and brain are not always as open as I want them to be.
Being open-hearted and open-minded is the only way I know to insure emotional safety. The willingness to be curious and vulnerable are critical to authenticity for they are key words to describe the quality of openness. Better still is that when necessary they can pick the locks I put on my emotions and thoughts. Without curiosity boredom sets in and we become susceptible to manipulation and mental machination.
This morning I was hanging out with friends as we celebrated one’s birthday and rejoiced in the fact that while we’ve all suffered, not one of us is suffering or dying of terminal uniqueness! It was a time of high play, seeing again how when we come together and get real, the potential for something can be seeded, quickly sprout and incredibly, begin to grow. Design, develop and evolve what works for you and you’ll quickly come to the realisation that your choices determine the quality of your life. When our decisions are well-reasoned, richly seasoned and deeply considered, ‘either or’ goes away and life truly becomes High Play!